life updates | january 2014

I decided this year to do my monthly recap posts at the actual end of the month, since life tends to get crazy in the middles, and I want to be a little more intentional with my monthly planning and goal-setting/accomplishing. (Note:  I realize I'm posting this on Feb. 3 which is actually three days PAST the end of the month, but I totally wrote this on the 30th!)

Welp, it's the end of January. Almost Feb. One month of 2014 is down. Another rent check is due for my OFFICE (!!!!). Laura will have been married for a whole month in a couple of days (what?!!). My fab intern has been with me for 2.5 weeks! We have been keeping residence in Suite 445 for exactly two weeks. Creative project/editorial shoot #1 of the year is almost complete. Oh. My. Lawdamercy, this month, y'all! It has been kicking me in the rear since the ball dropped, as I mentioned before. It's crazy to think that life is starting to kind of get back to a normal groove. I'm starting to find a routine.

We're still not 100% settled into the KDE HQ. Still needing to get some lighting hooked up, repair and hang some signage, get some pretties on the walls. But it is pretty ding-dang sweet up in here... I've got a cotton candy scented candle burning, pretty pink walls, and a nice little portable heater to endure the frigid winter. It's awful cozy in here!

I am nowhere near the life balance and peace I'm wanting in my overall life. I need beaucoups more yoga, more healthy food (less sugar), some more well-spent downtime, and some better systems in place, but I'm getting there. One thing at a time!

I saw the photos from Megan McGee of our special Relish shoot yesterday afternoon and literally exclaimed out loud, they're so perfect. She is seriously talented. Looking for a wedding photographer? She's your girl. (I have some of her gorgy biz cards in my office if you need one.)

From  EsqueScript' s January calligraphy class!

From EsqueScript's January calligraphy class!

So let's get down to biz.

self care  |  Need more soup, healthy food, and yoga. Need so much yoga. I've done well with drinking a lot of water, though!

home environment  |  Christmas is all the way down, Valentine's is almost all the way up. Getting rid of a lot of things, organized the upstairs since I moved so much of my things to the office (woo hoo!). We're getting there. January was largely living in filth since the first 3/4 of the month kicked my rear, but I vacuumed everything on Sunday and Drew tackled the kitchen and it's back to livable conditions. Woo hoo!

relationship  |   Both of us need prayer for Drew and this CPA exam. He doesn't know when he can reasonably study for it, work is crazy, life is crazy. I need to find ways to be more supportive and encouraging. We both need time to expand. That will be our big battle for 2014, conquering the CPA exam.

friends & fam  |   My best friend had us over to her house the week before last and it was such a lovely time. Sometimes impromptu gatherings are the best. Most of the time everyone needs notice, but occasionally God will put everything right into place. I need to work on keeping in touch with out-of-state friends and being more intentional with relationships. Goal.

career  |   Goodness, career has been all over January. I want to work now to be "full" instead of "busy." I've got some fab weddings in the future, looking forward to meeting with new potential clients, and entertaining people in my fab little suite 445. I need to type up notes from my TSE experience and start following through with some wisdom garnered.

fun & rec  |   I've fallen prey to the TV trap here lately. Boo to that. As much as I loooove Modern Family, it's not making me a more productive human, nor helping my brain shut off appropriately. My anxiety levels are still high despite the laughter. I need more physical activity and quality rec. Maybe reading.

cause or purpose  |   I honestly haven't done much of anything for others this month, sad to say. I'm guilty of having my one-track-mind and eschewing the rest of the world. It's caused some problems. But one thing I do enjoy doing through my business is helping clients focus on their marriage instead of the party... so perhaps in some way, I'm fulfilling part of my purpose by focusing so much on the biz here lately. Maybe.

I'm on  GoogleMaps , y'all! If you've had the opportunity to work with or encounter me in a businessy environment, please  review me !

I'm on GoogleMaps, y'all! If you've had the opportunity to work with or encounter me in a businessy environment, please review me!

Something I'd like to try with these updates from now on is projecting how I'd like my life to look and feel in one calendar month. In February, I'd like to feel at peace. Settled into my office. Settled into the wedding season. Settled into some semblance of a routine. Settled into healthier, sustainable habits. Attending a bare minimum of two yoga classes a week. (I'm shooting low, y'all.) Packing healthy lunches that I actually eat (I'm freaking starving). Implementing better business systems that leave everyone happier and more fulfilled. Separating work from home. Actually reading the Bible. (Even if it's just a devotional a day.) Managing my schedule better. Waking earlier. Going to bed earlier. Watching less TV. Snuggling my cats more. Helping Drew more. (Ironing, packing lunches, keeping everything clean.) 

That's all for now. Peace out, Jan.

xoxo KD

wind-down & lessons learned in eleven months

I have been quite out of the loop here, haven't I? For my regular readers, please accept my apologies for being so MIA this fall! I definitely need to get into a better routine of writing on the reg!

Despite the appearance that I've gone MIA, I've actually been putting in a number of hours and days and weeks devoting to planning lovely brides' weddings, meeting with new and potential clients, and getting ready for the amazeballs year ahead of us. 2013 was quite the building year! Going from launching the official start of Kelly Dellinger Events to booking significantly more clients, learning the ins and outs of business operating, deciding whether or not I'm cut out for this whole entrepreneurship thing (turns out, I am!), debating about taking a full-time job outside of KDE (turns out, I won't!) … there have been ups and downs all over the place over the past calendar year. 

I believe in being transparent, hence me telling you all of these not-so-gung-ho bits about business ownership. It's hard, y'all! There were a LOT of days where I stomped my feet and asked God to PLEAAAAASE reveal His plan for me in this business, so I could know whether or not it was all for naught. He continued to tell me to be patient. Patience is not one of my amazingly strong virtues or spiritual gifts, lemme tell you. But it was my calling. Wait through the storm. You'll come out on the other end stronger. 

Do I feel like I've suddenly "made it" or found the ultimate source of business success? Um, no. But do I feel like I'm living in alignment with God's plan for my career right now? Yep. 2013 was for building. Setting a foundation. Working with a bunch of wonderful clients with gorgeous tastes, styles, preferences. Getting to know different personalities. Learning how to work in difficult situations. Continuing to build my personal event planning skills. Sharpening my styling abilities.

I've learned so much this year.  Basic business practices. How to literally pay business taxes (note: some government workers can seem really mean and condescending with new business owners). How to network. How to push through fear. 

I've drank so many cups of coffee and glasses of wine this year. (Don't worry, Mom, it was mostly coffee.)  I've cried so many tears. Sweated. Blown my nose. Nursed sore feet. 

Building years can be really rough. 

But has it been worth it? Oh, oh yes. For every few stress-induced heart palpitations there has been a sweet word from a client (or her previously temporarily-crazy mom). Or a late-night meeting where I leave and call my husband to tell him, "I really love my work!" There always seems to be a venti chai tea latte when I so desperately need it. Or a solid event assistant who is worth her weight in gold. I can be burnt out and feeling completely uninspired, and yet someone will come to me with a spark of an idea that we run away with (like unicorns under a rainbow of glitter sugar sprinkles into the sunset).

God gives us exactly what we need, when we need it. Always. He is so faithful.

So I'm excited for 2014. I don't want to live in the future, so I won't get too far ahead of myself. But I'm excited. I'm going to do things smarter. I'm going to do more of the hard work that needs to be done. I'm going to be more trusting. And everything will be just fine. :)

My fall 2013 mantle -- complete with gourds aplenty, softly glowing candles and a couple of romantic touches. It may or may not have been replaced yesterday by a verrrrry early Christmas display.

My fall 2013 mantle -- complete with gourds aplenty, softly glowing candles and a couple of romantic touches. It may or may not have been replaced yesterday by a verrrrry early Christmas display.